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1Corinthians 13v3:

“If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.”

One thing that really makes me crazy (especially when I do it!) is to judge easily and by just taking in consideration how things look like and not trying to find out, at first, how they really are! I have experienced this phenomenon so many times in my life – especially practiced by people quite close to me – and I admit that it is a trigger.

However, the Lord will judge the heart. We are saved by grace. He will judge the motivation behind the deeds. Before we do anything better to check our heart and honestly to recognize what it is in it!

Love is more important than sacrifice. Sacrifice is not necessarily love, love can be sacrifice but still love won’t see it as a sacrifice but as the best that can be done as it is done willingly. When we learn or see various forms of sacrifice and wonderful acts, we believe that it is done out of love, true interest, passion, faith or ideals. It is not always as such. Many times is out of ego, useless expectations, masochism, showing off, fear, thinking what others might say about us.

“I don’t think there is anyone who needs God’s help and grace as much as I do. Sometimes I feel so helpless and weak. I think that is why God uses me. Because I cannot depend on my own strength, I rely on Him twenty-four hours a day.”

-Mother Teresa

Job 39v11

“Will you rely on him for his great strength? Will you leave your heavy work to him? “

Life on earth, including planet earth itself, goes on with us or without us! We need to remember that we are unique, for sure different – yet, equals – still, we are not the keepers of the Universe.

We think that we can have control on our life and we are not wrong to believe so. Certainly, we are capable to make decisions and to create most of our dreams if we put our mind into it!

The question is “What we do when we feel weak and scared?” We remember God! The error is that life becomes more difficult because we do not rely on Him during the good times, the bad ones, the sad ones, the exciting ones, the challenging ones…

We need to rely on Him continuously and in this way our scaring and weak moments will reduce. But how can we trust Him? If He gets too busy? If we are not good enough for Him to act?

How 1Corinthians 13v3 and Job 39v11 are connected?

It is about truly loving and relying on God. When we love a human being, we rely on him, we have expectations. Still, many times we do not rely on such a person, probably we try not to give troubles, not to become a burden, it is a thoughtful act out of love. With God is different. He asks us to rely on Him. When we do so, He can see that we trust Him and believe in Him. When we find it difficult to carry our burdens, God is pleased to do it for us.

So, it is about love, a love that it is more important than supporting the poor or go through unspeakable pain in His name. Our love to Him is the most supreme feeling. Many Christians become Christians when they go through difficulties in life. They go to God with expectations. Few out of them remain true believers. The reason? When the problems go or become familiar, God turns out to be irrelevant. Only those who believed in Him out of true love and cause they are convinced that He is real, He is alive, He is present and absolutely existing, only those keep loving Him and keep relying on Him without judging Him, without question Him – but do ask questions – without blaming Him. They are those ones who rely on Him under any circumstances, day and night!

 

 

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Our Tutor

 

Kids, youth and sometimes even old lads go through exams at school, College, University and any type of educational system. It is a challenging period and everybody looks forward to its end!

It is the same with the Kingdom of God. Who believes and confesses Jesus Christ as his/her Saviour and Lord, belongs in the Body of Christ. We enter as little babies who drink “milk” and through time we grow, we mature and become adults who eat “meat” (or veggies for some of us!). We know that during our lifetime, we will have troubles, we will have tests, challenges and sometimes tragedies. This is part of our “schooling” in this world. Those tests help us to move to the next level in our faith and into how to serve the Lord.

As we remember when we had exams at school (or still have) and we did our best till we passed to the next year or graduate, similarly happens through the counsel and help of the Holy Spirit. We excel in life and move on to something new that is still creative and productive. We continue to give testimonies regarding God’s glory. We continue witnessing His Majesty.

It is written in Romans 8v22-28:

“We know that the whole creation groans and labours with birth pangs together until now. Not only that, but we also who have the first fruits of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, eagerly waiting for the adoption, the redemption of our body.  For we were saved in this hope, but hope that is seen is not hope; for why does one still hope for what he sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, we eagerly wait for it with perseverance. Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. Now He who searches the hearts knows what the mind of the Spirit is, because He makes intercession for the saints according to the will of God. And we know that all things work together for the good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.”

When troubles come, they will shape us but we will not stay long in the trouble thanks to the Spirit who supports us through our weakness and trial. We are not alone through our “exams”. The Lord fights our battles! When we stand with Him, victory follows!

So, stick with the TUTOR and the TUTORIAL BOOK!

We certainly know that creation and creatures are always in labour to succeed survival and move forward. There are wonderful moments in between but “hard work” is the normal. As we grow and we learn through our Tutor how to increase, progress, move forward to His kingdom, still we need to do it with perseverance and endurance. This is the only way. Anything in this life needs perseverance and endurance.

I love the expression that says: “Good things come to those who wait”. My own understanding out of the” Tutorial Book” is that waiting is not sitting and doing nothing but by doing all needed to remain still and let the Tutor to do His own thing.

It is very reassuring to know that the Tutor checks the hearts. The Counsellor who was left with us – the Spirit – is our great helper during this life of perseverance and endurance. We are not left alone. We have a truly personal assistant who knows who we exactly are, each one individually and what we need. It is a great comfort!

It is even more encouraging that we are guaranteed that the Spirit does intercession for each one of us. What we lack, He adds, bringing in what it is needed.

What a nice way to start this week, remembering and acknowledging all that He has already helped us with, giving a huge thank to Him.

 

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truth or deception

“Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.”

-Galatians 6v7-8

What is truth? How could we define truth? How about those “white lies”? Is it the truth when we speak part of the facts, hiding others or just not mention them?

Officially truth is the state or quality of being true to someone or something; true facts, genuine depiction, statements of reality.

I just remembered what a teacher mentioned once: when we want to say something to someone, we priory check if it is beneficial, if it is creative and if it is true. I strongly believe that is the base of any communication, statement and acquaintance.

It is a fact that there are people who love truth and many times they decide to keep silence than give up a truth that might hurt someone, that might create further conflict, to say a truth that will throw “oil on the fire” than little bit of water! It is not only to speak the truth but to be patient and wait till you know when to say the truth and how.

Truth is like beauty. We have the external beauty still the internal beauty exists as well. Which one will we choose, which one our perception will adopt? Truth is connected with perception in so many cases. Better make sure that you know what you are talking about.

Truth, many times, is perceived through assumptions and speculations. Is it a true fact which you describe or it is the way you consider “obvious”? There is “true truth” and there is speculated one. We need to make sure, judge our own selves whether the truth is certain before we act, before we speak.

“The Gift of Silence” is a previous article and speaks about the usefulness of silence. Highly recommended! Sometimes, it is better to keep your silence as it is more creative, compassionate and protective. It takes wisdom to know when and how. That’s why we need God’s wisdom.

God reads our hearts and knows all. Definitely, we cannot mock him. Don’t even try! You are losing your time!

Deception is all around. We live in a deceptive world. We love secrets and hidden places. Many desire the light and sunshine but they are more comfortable in darkness.

The scripture “The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction” refers to many aspects of a sinful nature. Many identify the sinful nature regarding deeds and physical acts. I believe that sinful nature is the shape of our thoughts, desires, values, principles and expectations behind the acts. We really need to look at the details of our own motivations before the act. It will save us time and destruction.

Something to reflect on! Amen!

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our mates

Relationships do not just happen. At first, we build them. Then we need to maintain them for as long as we claim that we are within such a relationship. True friends are a treasure.

Sometimes we need to let them go especially when we realized that friendship is no longer. Same we do with all relationships in life. One said that there are people in our life for life and others for a season. And this is ok! Regarding our families, we need to remind ourselves that genes do not make the family as they do not make the relationships but relationships make a family. A good friend of mine says “we have families by choice, not necessarily by blood.”

I am sure that you understand what I mean and you have experienced such trembles.

There is an expression in Greek: “eyes do not see each other, they forget each other”! Very true. There are times that we fell short with a friend or circumstances might keep us away. Unexpectedly, we meet each other. It is the moment when we realize whether we fell truly apart – when there is a neutral emotion – or we feel as no time or conflict ever took place. All these facts are human. It is what makes us humans. We ought to remember so.

Garfield, the cat, said something amazing: “I am not mad at you, I’m just not dealing with you and your drama anymore.” Remember that we have those “drama” relationships somewhere on the way of life! (I love Garfield…a so wise cat!) My recommendation? Move out rapidly as they just absorb your energy and the possibilities to do something creative for the Lord, for yourself, for others.

Luke 10v1

After this the Lord appointed seventy-two others and sent them two by two ahead of him to every town and place where he was about to go.”

Today it is a beautiful day to think our mates, pray for them and ask the Lord to continue bringing in our lives the ones with whom we can become OUR BETTER SELF for the Lord’s sake.

I strongly believe that whoever brings up our best self – we do the same for them – those mates are the ones to go on for life. In the meantime, we encounter many others, those who are for a season. Within that season we mature more in knowledge of relationships, we understand more human nature, we appreciate better what is the best. There is no waste of time, no waste of relationships, all is about recycling!

The Lord in His indefinite wisdom knew all the pros and cons of relations. He knew the power of friendship, the power of co-operating and the strength of being two-two! We have many examples in the Bible of relationships, the ones which were successful, the ones that were for a season, the ones which remained strong till the end. Nevertheless, He kept putting people together to work for His kingdom and for fellowship.

Friends, mates, spouses, acquaintances, co-workers are important as the Ecclesiastes says:

Ecclesiastes 4v9-12

“Two are better than one,
Because they have a good reward for their labour.
For if they fall, one will lift up his companion.
But woe to him who is alone when he falls,
For he has no one to help him up.
Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm;
But how can one be warm alone?
Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him.
And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

Our Father God, we come to you today and we thank you for this new day, a day that we have the opportunity  to do something new; to do something for our friend, spouse, child, neighbour and stranger. Help us Lord, today, to become better, one step at the time. We need your strength and we pray that all is done for your glory, in Jesus Name, amen!

 

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1ST JAN 2016

Dear readers, Happy, Blessed 2016! It is here, it has arrived! I thank God for 2015, it was a great year, I learnt a lot, I finished unfinished business, I did different choices and definitely I grew emotionally, spiritually, mentally and aged gracefully.

2016 will be a year full of adventures in any level and I look forward to each day of all 366 days, yes, it is a leap year so it must be special! Why? No, no, I am not superstitious! I will have one more day to create something new and locate it within 2016. I am also happy for all those people who were born on 29th of February, so this year they can have a proper birthday celebration!

Simplicity is important in my life and I pursue it in my best ability. I believe that within the next 12 months I will learn new ways to simplify, I will understand my needs and wants in a new light and simplicity will become a stronger foundation in my life, by God’s grace and mighty hand.

I send my love to all of you. I am looking forward to share all next 366 days with you!

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Love is Protection

We continue the series of what love is and what love is not! By now we have explored that love is communication and that love is not pride!

Love is also protection! When we love, we feel to protect the other party as our Lord keeps protecting each one of us. We desire for the other person to be happy, joyful, living in “green pastures”, a life well lived with joy, respect, dignity and full of physical, emotional, spiritual health.

The Lord loves us in a way of becoming our shelter; He is our safe place, our security, our stability and our shield. Each one of the above descriptions is about protection. I highlight what I just said: “the Lord loves us IN A WAY…” It is inevitable not to observe that someone protects you. Protection is not only in the natural world, such as, protection from physical harm. Protection expands to our emotional world, making sure that we are well, respected, well treated. People make sure that they do not physically abuse others, nevertheless many  do harm through their behaviour, their tongue, by trying to exploit or manipulate others. They consider their selves no abusers the moment that they are one of the worse cases.

The Lord is the definition of love and that’s why I start with Him. He is the measure, the comparison to understand love as protection. When there is protection, when we know that we are protected, we can relax, we can rest, be in quiet resting places.

Isaiah 32v18

My people will dwell in a peaceful habitation, In secure dwellings, and in quiet resting places,”

Joe 3v16

But the LORD will be a shelter for His people,

Proverbs 29v25

The fear of man brings a snare, But whoever trusts in the LORD shall be safe.”

Psalm 119v114

You are my hiding place and my shield; I hope in Your word.”

I have so many testimonies of how the Lord kept me safe, protected, bringing stability in my life and truly feeling that I had a shield upon me. All those stories will be in my next  book. Today, I wish to write down one very recent experience I had.

It was about a month ago when I woke up as usual early in the morning and just before 6am I went out to remove the padlock that keeps the little door of the gate locked so the gardener to enter in. When I reached to unlock the padlock, I noticed that there was …no padlock! I was surprised and started looking around on the ground where it could have been. I thought that I forgot to lock the previous night or as I was sliding the gate, it fell down. Kept looking around for a while but no sign of it. Suddenly, as I turned my head towards my left shoulder, I noticed something strange about the steel door of the little storeroom. I walked closer and I saw that somebody had tried to open the door but had failed. They had tried so hard to the point that the door was crooked and the key could not open it. Instantly, I understood that thieves came in during the night. Not a second passed by and my eye turned at the borehole location and then I saw it: all piping from inside the borehole were laying on the ground. I got it: they stole the pump! Next, my sight went straight at my vehicle. The car was open – I left it like this the previous day – windows open, my MP3 inside and some spanners…nothing was touched.

At first, I got upset and sad…especially thinking the finance implication of it. It was not a kind of fear. I would never allow myself to become intimidated or panicked. At that moment, the gardener came and he noticed naked footprints all around, starting at the gate reaching the vehicle and my house door! My garden boots had gone as well. I spoke a bit with Bupe and went in the house, bathing and getting ready to go out. I would normally have gone to the police but only the thought of spending at least three hours in the police station reporting, gave me the clear picture of I was not going to report anything!

In about an hour my whole perception changed and joy came back into my heart! The upsetting mood and sadness left me when suddenly I realized that I never heard the thieves. I am convinced that they made quite some noise by braking the locks of the gate door and the one for the pump, especially when they bent the whole steel door of the store room. In addition,  my car had not been touched nor the loose items inside it, the garden chair was still there, I was alive and not traumatised in any way. Imagine if  I had woken up and look out of the window seeing strange people into my property…I don’t think that I could easily forget it. Imagine if they had come into the house…

What I felt at that moment was thankfulness and heavily protected. Yes, something bad had happened. At the same time, I was fully protected, safe and my dwelling was secure. This amazing peace and joy returned inside me and I felt His shield fully covering me, defending me!

The end of the story? The thieves – it seems – kept coming each night trying to cross the gate again, we saw their naked footprints outside my gate but this time strong sophisticated padlocks  were in place, plus a rapid response alarm! One of my neighbours was equally victimized as his pump was stolen few days just before my incident but he kept an eye of what’s happening. Few days later, he got them into his property and they ended up in the prison! I felt sorry for them – I heard that they were badly beaten – as I know Zambian prison very well but what else could have happened?

I am truly thankful and grateful to my Father in Heavens for protecting my emotions, my body and my spirit from any true harm. Financially, there was provision to replace the damages and cover security fees. No complains! The same night I went to my bed (before fixing the pump or security) with the absolute security that I could sleep peacefully as I had Him looking after me.

Is it not a wonderful feeling? Oh, yes, it is!

That’s how we need to express love towards to others. Our love will be in a way that provides the same confidence that we have in the Lord. Our love will materialize as our protection for others in a way that helps them to relax and not get stressed, manipulated and obliged. Can you see the difference?

We use to provide assistance or protection or services to others whom we love but then we try to get something out of them as an indication of appreciation or because we think that they ought to and so forth. I do not believe that this is love. Yes, we need to be appreciated but it is not the end of the world if we are not! We probably won’t be very motivated to do something soon for that person but it is OK. If they do not feel that we show love, they might never understand it in any case or in any event! We need to move around, to act and go on living with love and mostly with wisdom. What we call love could become an abuse if it is not applied with wisdom. Love is not an act or feeling that can be truly described as a picture but it can be painted through acts and deeds.

Isaiah 33v6

Wisdom and knowledge will be the stability of your times”

It is very much about wisdom; wisdom is a whole subject by itself. What I really desire to emphasize is that we truly need God’s wisdom in our life to know how to practice and give love without hurting others.

It is also time not to take anything or anyone for granted but recognise the great provision in our life and that He is our hiding place!

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Dear Friends, Readers, Brothers and Sisters,

I send you greetings in the name of our Lord and plenty of warm sun from beautiful Africa and as an advertisement says, they call it Africa, we call it Home! I pray that you are all well and His Hand is upon you, His love, protection, provision, grace and mercy is with you. Amen!

You might have noticed that recently the blog is not as active as used to be. So, as I am sitting in a nice cafe where there is electricity and internet connection, I wish to let you know that I have not forgotten you. The issue is that water level in reservoirs is low that means electricity cannot be produced according to demand. So, for first time in Zambia, we are in 8hrs load-shedding a fact that influences communications as well. It is what it is, we just become practical and pro active, being prepared for even more difficult days as the hot season will come in few months. I am sure that humans, animals and plants looking forward for next rainy season.

No matter what we deeply love our land and we are grateful to the Lord for each day’s favour!

If we miss each other at times, know that I appreciate you and love you truly, looking forward always to hear from you and share as our days allow.

Talk to you soon, when no post on line please go back to all those previous posts (almost 200 in this blog and more than 400 in the http://www.lovingministry.org) and get some inspiration, download my e-books, are free, and refresh knowledge of our God.

Big hug and love,

Dimitra

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